BEN'S STORY

Like you, I have been through hell. I remember the day my wife disappeared with our two young children. She showed up a week later halfway across the country.

For the next six months I was in and out of court, dealing with lawyers, being harassed by police, and at the same time trying to see my kids. I barely slept. I lost to much weight, lost my job, and cut myself off from many friends.

I remember it was the third time I had taken a flight to see my children, but my ex would not let us meet. She gave some pathetic excuse. I was on the train back to the airport and cried. A passenger handed me tissues.

I learned that, in a relationship breakdown involving an angry woman who will stop at nothing to get her hands on every last penny, who will fabricate stories, and who will hurt her own children by preventing them access to a loving father, most men lose everything. The homes and cars they worked for, their jobs, and their family and friends. But most devastating, is the lost relationship with their children.

It became obvious to me how we men were at a disadvantage in a female biased system as we navigate a world of court, fabricated domestic violence allegations, and the fight to see our kids. The outcome is that, most of us men are destroyed, many contemplate suicide, and hundreds do G-d have mercy on us, take their own lives. I would never have believed any of it, had I not gone through it myself; 78 court appearances, 3 ADVO’s, 100+ encounters with police, need I continue?

After six months of hell, I had enough. I decided I was not going to be a victim anymore. I went on a holiday where I met a beautiful girl. She also happened to be a life coach and she helped me sort myself out – well almost. It was a long battle.

I am now proud to say that, despite all the hurdles, I live an incredible life. I am fit, I have money, great relationships, and most importantly, my children love me even if they can’t see me as often as they want to.

As Winston Churchill said, “If you are going through hell, keep going.” I’ve decided it’s time to help fellow men who are going through hell to keep going. Men who want to move forward. Men who don’t want to be another victim of the system. Men who despite everything want to still achieve their dreams, stay healthy and fit, and by all means have an awesome relationship with their children.

*This site is dedicated in memory of David, a loving father. Click here to read David's story. Very powerful.