Are You a Victim or Warrior?
Feb 03, 2022No man ever went into a relationship thinking, “I hope the woman I’m in love with turns out to be a malicious-vindictive-narcissistic-borderline
personality disordered-sociopath. With any luck, she will drag my butt through court while trying to take all my money and alienate me from my children. And I’m looking forward to having to deal with false domestic violence allegations and the police. Maybe I’ll get arrested a few times while trying to see my kids. I’ll get to ride in the back of a police wagon, get fingerprinted, and sit in a cell.”
“I’m also excited about dealing with a Child Support Administration and the Administrative Appeal Tribunal. And, if all goes well, I’ll need to navigate the family court system along with learning about and dealing with mediators, family report writers, and an independent children’s lawyer. And, then when I finally do see my kids, I can deal with contact supervision agencies, police welfare checks, and child protection services investigating me for being an alcoholic, druggy and paedophile.”
Hell no! you didn’t sign up for this. But such is life.
Innocent people are caught in wars. Some make it, and some don’t.
You, my friend, have been caught in the middle of a war. It is unfortunate, but it is the way things are. You may survive, or you may not.
Is it going to be easy? No. Will you suffer lots of pain? Yes. Will the systems regime help you? No. Will you sometimes want to throw your hands up in the air and surrender? Yes. And after all you do, will your children turn against you by their alienating mother? Maybe.
You can claim victimhood and lay down and die, or you can rise up and be a warrior Dad. As a Warrior Dad, you can go to sleep at night knowing you did what you could within your power.
The choice is yours.
