Don't Compete With Your Ex

When my kids come to me for the weekend, we watch one movie. We may watch two movies when they are with me over the school holidays for a week. 

At their mother's home, they each have a personal phone, tablet, and laptop computer. My ex has a large Apple TV with subscriptions to Netflix, Disney, Stan and who knows what else? A large component of what she and the kids do together is watching TV series and movies.  

I am not going to compete with her on this. 

Even when my children and I watch a movie together, I differentiate it from how mum does it with them.  We watch the movie in bed, on my laptop and eat popcorn. Over the last few months, we have been watching the old Charlie Chaplain films. They love them!  

My kids and I are avid bushwalkers and enjoy spending time outdoors. When they are with me for a weekend, we do walks. Last Sunday, we did a 20-kilometre bushwalk. Mum doesn’t take them on bush walks. 

When I collect my kids from school on a Friday, we often go straight to the library. We choose a bunch of books, buy a bag of chips, and then sit in the park eating and reading. Mum does not take them to the library or buy them chips.  

Find an activity that you enjoy and are passionate about. Make it something you do with your children that your ex does not.