I used to think my story is unique, but it is not.

I never want another dad to go through what I have gone through.

Every day I speak with fathers. I cry when I hear their stories.

I used to think my story is unique, but it is not. It is the same again and again and again.

It pains me to see how much suffering a vindictive/narcissistic/borderline personality disordered/jealous mother can cause. What frustrates me more is how the system enables, encourages, and even rewards this abysmal behaviour.

Not a day goes by where I think, “What can we do better?”

Lately, I’ve been reflecting on car seatbelts…

Hear me out.

In the early 1900’s tens of thousands of people were dying in car accidents. Heads smashing into steering wheels and windscreens were the leading cause of death.  Companies kept designing softer steering wheels and innovative windscreens that would lessen the impact of a crash. Though it took decades, it eventually became evident that a well-designed seat belt would do the best job.

The seat belt has saved millions of lives.

So what is our seat belt?

I see lots of guys come up with great ideas on how to fix the system. I’ve had a few myself. We know the system is broken. We know dads are crashing and losing their lives, children are growing up alienated, and the lawyers and courts are walking away laughing.

Do we keep trying to make softer steering wheels?  Or do we figure out what is the seatbelt?

Would love to hear your thoughts. How can we fix the system/s in the most efficient, practical and timely way?

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