Why Does the System Keeps Abusing Fathers and Nothing Changes?

 I have been caught in the system for nearly seven years. I’ve attended court in five jurisdictions, dealt with multiple arrests (never convicted), had child abuse allegations on me, and headaches from heaps of child support issues. I still get emails from my ex’s lawyers.

I have worked with over 100 men dealing with false abuse allegations, the family court circus, child support idiots and of course ex from hell. Over time, I believe that I have had many reasonable ideas about how to fix the system. Also, I have heard some great ideas from the dads I work with.

So why doesn't anything change?

I believe it boils down to the following; The people who most want the change do not have the energy to go about bringing the change.  They are the fathers who are deeply caught up in the system trying to stay floating above the surface and not drown. All their energy and resources, be they mental, physical, or financial, are being allocated to keep them sane and survive their ordeals.

I remember when the police knocked on my door five days in a row looking to arrest me. I recall when I had to attend court for five full days straight and had to take a week off work. I recall going to collect my children from school on a Friday and two police cars with three officers forced the children back into school. For the next five hours, I fought with the police for them to allow the children to be with me. In these situations, where in hell would I have the energy to fight the system?

I wrote my first book, ‘Surviving The Ex From Hell.’ I thought that I would have it done in a few months, but it took a few years. Why? Because I was too busy writing affidavits for myself and other dads.

I put together parenting order templates that many of you have used. Ran a day-long conference with eight speakers etc. I’ve got several more books I want to write and do more…

There is so much more that needs to get done, but I keep getting bogged down in dealing with more headaches.

Can you relate to this? Do you want to do something to bring about change yet you keep having to deal with your own crap that keeps coming up?

Bringing about change needs time energy and resources. Who has this and is ready to commit to this process?